Your kids are not special

Just forwarded it to my 10 years old girl and her soccer coach -

http://www.theswellesleyreport.com/2012/06/wellesley-high-grads-told-youre-not-special/

Jerry wrote:Just forwarded it to my 10 years old girl and her soccer coach -

http://www.theswellesleyreport.com/2012/06/wellesley-high-grads-told-youre-not-special/

Blah-blah-blah. Cranky old guy struggling through mid-life crisis engages in circular reasoning to justify his existence and reflect the oh-so-popular canard that "kids these days" are somehow different, inferior, entitled. When, in fact, they're just the same as they were when he was a kid. And when Sophocles was a kid. Human nature doesn't change all that much. And for what it's worth, all 6.8 billion of our lives are extraordinary, because they are our own.

Mark B wrote:

Jerry wrote:Just forwarded it to my 10 years old girl and her soccer coach -

http://www.theswellesleyreport.com/2012/06/wellesley-high-grads-told-youre-not-special/

Blah-blah-blah. Cranky old guy struggling through mid-life crisis engages in circular reasoning to justify his existence and reflect the oh-so-popular canard that "kids these days" are somehow different, inferior, entitled. When, in fact, they're just the same as they were when he was a kid. And when Sophocles was a kid. Human nature doesn't change all that much. And for what it's worth, all 6.8 billion of our lives are extraordinary, because they are our own.

Impressive on your writing. Oh, you are a professional writer, right?

I didn't read much of the article though.

The initial argument is flawed: at my high school - and college - graduations, there were a number of different colored gowns, as well as sashes (whatever the hell they're called) and other decorations. They all signified why those students WERE special.

He then goes on to say that all your trophies and prizes you've won are unimportant and not special... But you should go climb a mountain and make sure to live a life of accomplishment.

That said, yes, there's something freeing to those who are the geniuses sitting in the crowd knowing that because they're just "one of the 6.8b," they don't need to worry about fighting for glory.

Hey, Wellesley High School! That's my alma mater! Red Raiders '86!!

Obviously meant to be a speech that flipped over some chairs and got people thinking.....I think he did raise some interesting points about "accomplishments" and "accolades" versus simply living life and challenging yourself. I think that's a good viewpoint and this particular passage resonated:

Like accolades ought to be, the fulfilled life is a consequence, a gratifying byproduct. It’s what happens when you’re thinking about more important things. Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view. Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you. Go to Paris to be in Paris, not to cross it off your list and congratulate yourself for being worldly.

Chris M wrote:Hey, Wellesley High School! That's my alma mater! Red Raiders '86!!

Obviously meant to be a speech that flipped over some chairs and got people thinking.....I think he did raise some interesting points about "accomplishments" and "accolades" versus simply living life and challenging yourself. I think that's a good viewpoint and this particular passage resonated:

Like accolades ought to be, the fulfilled life is a consequence, a gratifying byproduct. It’s what happens when you’re thinking about more important things. Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view. Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you. Go to Paris to be in Paris, not to cross it off your list and congratulate yourself for being worldly.

Note that he tagged out all the "N" towns around non-special Wellesley.

Chris, I agree that YOLOing for the sake of YOLOing (ugh) may be a more "noble" aspiration than YOLOing for the sake of pictures on Facebook of you YOLOing... but accomplishment is accomplishment. If you do something amazing and brag about it, you still did something amazing. Who cares if the PR for Guatemalan schools has nothing to do with Guatemala? They still benefit from it. Right?

Mike MacLellan wrote:Chris, I agree that YOLOing for the sake of YOLOing (ugh) may be a more "noble" aspiration than YOLOing for the sake of pictures on Facebook of you YOLOing... but accomplishment is accomplishment. If you do something amazing and brag about it, you still did something amazing. Who cares if the PR for Guatemalan schools has nothing to do with Guatemala? They still benefit from it. Right?

Graduating from a HS is an accomplishment and boys have to have a date to the PROM like other thread suggested?

Are you from a third world country, Mike?

I don't think the speaker was ever implying that graduating from HS is an accomplishment. But, for some people, yes, it is.

I don't know what other thread you refer to.

Mark B wrote:

Jerry wrote:Just forwarded it to my 10 years old girl and her soccer coach -

http://www.theswellesleyreport.com/2012/06/wellesley-high-grads-told-youre-not-special/

And for what it's worth, all 6.8 billion of our lives are extraordinary, because they are our own.

The speaker makes that exact point. See his last two sentences.

The sweetest joys of life, then, come only with the recognition that you’re not special.

Because everyone is.

I think he's spot on from beginning to end.

And to relate this to running, always remember that nobody really cares how many marathons you ran or what your time was --- except you.

Stan

ssilvert wrote:

Mark B wrote:

Jerry wrote:Just forwarded it to my 10 years old girl and her soccer coach -

http://www.theswellesleyreport.com/2012/06/wellesley-high-grads-told-youre-not-special/

And for what it's worth, all 6.8 billion of our lives are extraordinary, because they are our own.

The speaker makes that exact point. See his last two sentences.

The sweetest joys of life, then, come only with the recognition that you’re not special.

Because everyone is.

I think he's spot on from beginning to end.

And to relate this to running, always remember that nobody really cares how many marathons you ran or what your time was --- except you.

Stan

I'm with Stan here. I thought the message was a good one. Do it (whatever "it" is) because you care about it - not because it is part of something to brag about. Life does keep score in various ways and its impossible to deny measuring yourself against whatever metrics you place importance on but make it about you and not receiving recognition. Here's another passage of his speech that I found myself nodding about:

we have of late, we Americans, to our detriment, come to love accolades more than genuine achievement. We have come to see them as the point — and we’re happy to compromise standards, or ignore reality, if we suspect that’s the quickest way, or only way, to have something to put on the mantelpiece, something to pose with, crow about, something with which to leverage ourselves into a better spot on the social totem pole. No longer is it how you play the game, no longer is it even whether you win or lose, or learn or grow, or enjoy yourself doing it… Now it’s “So what does this get me?”

I sincerely hope they do not ask this guy to speak again at commencement.

I can't believe He really gave that speech ...........yes I think it was meant to shock most I'm sure it did. I agree with most of it,but I think He needs more compassion in his outlook,but He really did have great points

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